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White-trash garlic bread

My birthday: Always looking beyond, never quite satisfied with what was in front of me.

Always looking beyond, I was never quite satisfied with what was in front of me.

I can’t get no satisfaction.  I grew up wanting more, and why not?  It was my culture.  Even the Rolling Stones’ Mick Jagger wailed dissatisfaction over a girl dissatisfied with him. He was dissatisfied with just about everything on his plate: from less-than-white shirts to his less-than-cool brand of cigarettes.

Why?

Blame it on TV ads, culture, and all that.  Be cool: be dissatisfied.  So I was.  Dissatisfaction seeped into my soul, but most of all into my stomach.  I couldn’t get no satisfaction from – food.

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A day's haul of my dad's backyard tomatoes

My dad’s daily summertime haul from our backyard.

 

Growing up in Montana, our backyard burst with homegrown strawberries, organic beans, corn, carrots, cucumbers, and my dad’s consuming passion: his dozen varieties of tomatoes, from heirloom to hybrid.

Each autumn Dad hunted and shot a deer – beheaded and bloodied in the basement – fresh meat for our family.

My mom’s cooking won nine top ribbons at the Montana State Fair: breads, pies, cakes, and candies.  The town newspaper even featured my mom and her first-prize winning cinnamon rolls.

Harvesttime: my mom's canned cherries, jams, pies

Harvesttime: my mom’s canned cherries, jams, pies

We canned tomatoes, beans,  horseradish, cherries, and pears.  Picked free chokecherries from the side of country roads for jams and jellies.  Made pizza from scratch on Saturday nights, watching “Gunsmoke.”  Pigged out on Mom’s homemade garlic bread dripping with melted butter, pungent garlic cloves, and freshly grated cheese.

My cousins feed slop to grateful hogs. (Hinsdale, Montana)

My cousins feed slop to grateful hogs. (Hinsdale, Montana)

On our relatives’ Montana homesteads, I plucked feathers from beheaded chickens in the kitchen sink and drank milk from cows whose udders I’d pumped earlier that morning.  We played in the pigpen, knowing some hog might be that night’s main meal.   (“Bringin’ home the bacon” really meant something to me.)  It was all from scratch: from bread, butter, and bacon to pickles, preserves, and pies.

Our lives were from scratch, scratching out livings as best my parents could try.

And they tried, and they tried, and they tried.

And yet, in my now-envied childhood world of whole foods and good health, in that age of jagged dissatisfaction my small soul longed for more, so much more…

I longed for…

Twinkies

Twinkies, 30+ ingredients for this cream-filled cake.

I longed for Twinkies.

Ho-Hos.  Hostess Cherry Pies and Ding-Dongs.

Cheez-Whiz.  Hamburger Helper, Spam, Dream Whip, and Jello.

What could trump a Manwich with Pringles and Velveeta cheese?  Fine dining was Swanson frozen fried chicken TV dinners along with what’s now ironically known as  ‘white-trash garlic bread’ – made with Imperial Margarine/(fake) butter, Wonder (chemical) Bread, McCormicks garlic powder, and Kraft (preservative-filled) powdered Parmesan cheese from a shiny green can.  Oh, and pass me the Ac’cent MSG, please.  I craved them all, beyond the hunger pangs in my stomach.

Why?

Hamburger Helper, instant cake mix, Spam: 79 ingredients

Hamburger Helper, instant cake mix, Spam: 79 ingredients

I hungered for store-bought, processed, chemically-laden products: status symbols of wealth.  They cost money, and you had to have money to buy them.  So, in my young mind if you could buy that stuff, you were rich.

In contrast, cheap natural foods made from scratch or grown in backyard gardens were obvious signs of financial struggle – my family’s struggles.  White-trash hicks.  White-trash kid.

"I was no Rosa Parks of lunch-pail integration..."

Worse, in school lunchrooms kids with lunch pails and homemade fare were branded, self-segregated to cafeteria corners while kids who paid for hot meals – pizza, tater tots, corn dogs – sat at the coolest, most prominent tables.  I was no Rosa Parks of lunch-pail integration back then, but still longed – like a child’s nose pressed against candy-store glass – I longed for those 10- and 25-cent meals that would land me in the upper class of my class.

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From scratch, my food for the satisfied soul. (Seattle, 2003)

From scratch, my food for the satisfied soul. (Seattle, 2003)

 Decades later, I cook everything from scratch.

Decades later, I still struggle with class, social standing judged on the stock I come from, where I was born and now live, what I eat.

It’s a sense of place DNAed into me, longing and yet knowing that no matter what I do or achieve I will never really ‘fit in’ to that higher social class – acceptance – I craved as a child, with store-bought processed food my gateway.

I know better, now.  I know my place.

And yet, my childhood culinary dissatisfaction of our Montana homegrown, white-trash whole foods is now craved by those upper classes willing to spend ‘whole paychecks for local, raw, organic fresh fare.

We are all so dissatisfied with what’s on our plates, craving that which eludes us even when the most nourishing sustenance is set before us, inviting us to eat, drink, and be filled.

And perhaps, someday, to be satisfied...

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3 thoughts on “White-trash garlic bread

  1. I often wonder how my eating life would have been different if I had been raised on fresh vegetables, like you were, instead of Green Giant canned stuff. I didn’t eat vegetables until I was in my 20s — because the canned asparagus, beans and peas I grew up on made me gag. Some college roommates insisted I just try the real thing and — lo and behold — it wasn’t gaggy at all! Still, satisfaction is difficult to achieve. I have food longings still. And along with that, food guilt when I try to satisfy myself. Very thought-provoking post.

    • @Carolyn: Now you’re in Mexico eating the freshest of fresh foods! I’m certain you are so much more appreciative of those fresh veggies/foods as an adult than I was as a child. Ironically, Ripon College, Wisconsin–where I studied–was headquarters for Green Giant. (Lots of GG canned veggies in our cafeteria, which I passed over.) And yes, satisfaction is so hard to realize, especially when it was there–is there–all along, unrecognized: satisfying foods, relationships, purpose… Hope you and Ross have a wonderful Christmas in Mexico!–Helen

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